“Volo Ut Sis”

Chapters in this book

1. Frontmatter i
2. Contents vii
3. Preface xi
4. Acknowledgments xix
5. Part I. Legacy
6. Ruined States 3
7. What Is Love? 4
8. Anarchic Eros 9
9. The Cannibal Husbands of Our Futures 12
10. Two Crucifixions 14
11. If Only We Had Read the Song of Solomon 19
12. Burning 21
13. Find the Clitoris 23
14. Shame 24
15. Vulgar Love 26
16. Ambivalent Pleasure 31
17. Rigor Mortis 35
18. Part II. Love
19. The We 41
20. Happy Love 43
21. Sweet Apple 46
22. Insatiable Demand for Presence 51
23. Love for the Living 53
24. The Infinite Plasticity of Position 56
25. L’Amour Fou 57
26. Beautification 61
27. Pathological Love 65
28. The Interworld 68
29. The Gift 72
30. “Volo Ut Sis” 73
31. Part III. Limits
32. Amputation 79
33. “You Made My Life Better” 81
34. On the Question of Worth 85
35. My Best Thing 86
36. Peeled Skin 88
37. Can’t or Won’t 93
38. The Angryman and the Sweetman 95
39. Abusion 97
40. A Misnomer 101
41. The Paradox of Risk 105
42. The House of Tragedy 108
43. The Line 109
44. A Bad Calculation 112
45. Sweet Revenge 115
46. Saving 117
47. Leaving 119
48. Part IV. Loss
49. The Original Loss 123
50. Slow Heart 126
51. Iron Air 127
52. Emotional Possibility 129
53. Mourning Time 132
54. Cosmic Gift 134
55. Losing Is Ours 137
56. Grieving the Living 141
57. Singularity and Betrayal 143
58. The Ambiguity of Loneliness 146
59. Survival 149
60. Monuments 157
61. Afterword 159
62. Notes 165
63. Bibliography 175
64. Index 181