Chapters in this book

1. Frontmatter i
2. THAT WOMANLY SOLIDARITY AND GRACE v
3. CONTENTS vii
4. Acknowledgments ix
5. Preface: Crossings xi
6. PART ONE. DONALD
7. 1 BOY TO MAN 2
8. 2 MARRIAGE 12
9. 3 INTERNET 17
10. 4 PROFESSOR DRESSED 23
11. 5 CLUBS 28
12. 6 IN THE LADIES' ROOM 35
13. 7 BOLDNESS 43
14. 8 EPIPHANY 48
15. 9 LOSING A FAMILY 56
16. 10 ACADEMIC DRAG 64
17. 11 A DAY YOU FEEL PRETTY 69
18. 12 PREMARIN 75
19. 13 SWEET OCTOBER 78
20. PART TWO. DEE
21. 14 OUTED 86
22. 15 "WELCOME" 91
23. 16 THE CUCKOO'S NEST 96
24. 17 HEARING? 102
25. 18 THEN WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS? 109
26. 19 CHICAGO 112
27. 20 CHANGING 119
28. 21 SISTER'S LAST 123
29. 22 PROFESSIONAL GIRL ECONOMIST 132
30. 23 FAREWELL SPEECH 135
31. 24 DUTCH WELCOME 141
32. 25 DUTCH WINTER 150
33. 26 PASSING 155
34. 27 YES, MA'AM 160
35. PART THREE. DEIDRE
36. 28 VRIENDINNETJES 168
37. 29 WOMEN'S WORLD 176
38. 30 TO MAKE UP FOR GOD'S NEGLECT 181
39. 31 MERRY MAY 185
40. 32 STARTING 188
41. 33 FINISHING 193
42. 34 A WOMAN ON HORMONE REPLACEMENT THERAPY 198
43. 35 FACELIFT 202
44. 36 THIS IS HOW WE LIVE 206
45. 37 THOU WINTER WIND 212
46. 38 HOMEWARD 218
47. 39 COSTS 224
48. 40 IOWA DRAG 233
49. 41 PROFESSORESSA 238
50. 42 SECOND VOICE 242
51. 43 MAKING IT UP 246
52. 44 HOME 250
53. 45 DIFFERENCES 255
54. 46 CHRIST'S MASS, 1997 262
55. AFTERWORD. AFTER TWO DECADES 267