Chapter 2 Emotional Intelligence in Workplace Negotiations
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Christopher T. H. Miners
Abstract
In this chapter, we discuss the emotional issues that warrant consideration before, during, and after negotiation and conflict management situations to help people successfully use emotional intelligence (EI) abilities at each stage. As considerations before negotiating, we discuss the interplay of expectations versus reality, including the risks as well as benefits of high levels of EI, the importance of context in shaping how helpful or harmful specific emotions can be, and the fact that emotions and cognitions jointly influence each other. During negotiation, we highlight the importance of understanding how even authentic emotional signals can be (mis)interpreted, the complexity of perceptions and differences in perception based on individual ability and contextual factors, and the myriad of other intrapersonal, interpersonal, organizational, and broader cultural factors that can influence these processes. We then review the need to consider subjective outcomes and long-term and potential ripple effects for both interpersonal and organizational relationships following conflict. Finally, we briefly discuss important emerging trends involving EI in workplace negotiations, including communication channels and artificial intelligence. Overall, our aim is to highlight some of the most critical issues at each stage of negotiation, to provide (necessarily) broad, overarching advice, and to share references that facilitate a deeper dive into the role of EI in negotiations. To conclude, we include a tear-away page of guiding questions for each stage to help you effectively adapt to any given situation.
Abstract
In this chapter, we discuss the emotional issues that warrant consideration before, during, and after negotiation and conflict management situations to help people successfully use emotional intelligence (EI) abilities at each stage. As considerations before negotiating, we discuss the interplay of expectations versus reality, including the risks as well as benefits of high levels of EI, the importance of context in shaping how helpful or harmful specific emotions can be, and the fact that emotions and cognitions jointly influence each other. During negotiation, we highlight the importance of understanding how even authentic emotional signals can be (mis)interpreted, the complexity of perceptions and differences in perception based on individual ability and contextual factors, and the myriad of other intrapersonal, interpersonal, organizational, and broader cultural factors that can influence these processes. We then review the need to consider subjective outcomes and long-term and potential ripple effects for both interpersonal and organizational relationships following conflict. Finally, we briefly discuss important emerging trends involving EI in workplace negotiations, including communication channels and artificial intelligence. Overall, our aim is to highlight some of the most critical issues at each stage of negotiation, to provide (necessarily) broad, overarching advice, and to share references that facilitate a deeper dive into the role of EI in negotiations. To conclude, we include a tear-away page of guiding questions for each stage to help you effectively adapt to any given situation.
Chapters in this book
- Frontmatter I
- Contents V
- Contributors IX
- Acknowledgements XXVII
- Preface XXIX
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Section 1: Interpersonal Conflict Management
- Chapter 1 Shining a Light on Organizational Conflict 1
- Chapter 2 Emotional Intelligence in Workplace Negotiations 11
- Chapter 3 Psychological Safety: Creating a Healthy Conflict Culture 27
- Chapter 4 Thomas-Kilmann Instrument (TKI) and the Kilmann Organizational Conflict Instrument (KOCI) 39
- Chapter 5 Mindfulness Training in Organizational Settings: An Empirical Look at the Research 57
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Section 2: Organizational Conflict Management
- Chapter 6 Understanding Culture to Resolve Conflict: An Introduction of the ADVANCE Through Conflict™ Model 69
- Chapter 7 Utilization of Frames and Reframing for Organizational Leadership and Conflict Management Effectiveness 103
- Chapter 8 10 Separations in Conflict Resolution 113
- Chapter 9 Collaborative Practices in Organizations: Managing Conflict and Leading Constructive Change 123
- Chapter 10 Shifting the Focus from Stand-Alone Dispute Systems Design Elements to Creating Self-Correcting and Fluid Organizations 133
- Chapter 11 Stereotypes, Bias and Microaggressions in Organizational Conflict Management (OCM) 149
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Section 3: Intercultural, International, and Ethic Conflict Management
- Chapter 12 Managing Workplace Conflicts: Considerations of Ethnicity and Religion 161
- Chapter 13 Hindu Philosophy and the Resolution of the Roots of Conflict: Adi Shankaracharya’s ‘Nirvana Shatakam’ 173
- Chapter 14 Political Conflicts in the Workplace: What are Their Effects, and Can They be Avoided? 185
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Section 4: Methods for Managing Organizational Conflicts
- Chapter 15 Detecting Deception in Negotiation: From Natural Observation to Strategic Provocation 199
- Chapter 16 The HearT of Mediation 217
- Chapter 17 Managing Organizational Conflicts Through Innovation, Creativity, and Inclusion: Implementing a Conflict System of Shared Leadership 233
- Chapter 18 Coaching and Organisational Development: Lessons and Themes from 360 Degree Feedback 249
- Chapter 19 Functions and Benefits of an Organizational Ombuds 269
- Chapter 20 Managing Workplace Conflict: The Role of Human Resources as “Organizational Toxin Handlers” 281
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Section 5: Special Topics in Organizational Conflict Management
- Chapter 21 Workplace Bullying: Not Just Another Conflict 289
- Chapter 22 Women and Organizational Conflict Management: Promoting Human Rights and Challenging Gender Bias 309
- Chapter 23 Making the Invisible Visible: Uncovering the Mystery of Personality Conflicts at Work 317
- Chapter 24 Organizational Conflict Management: Driving Innovation and Organizational Success Through Leadership Management and Human Connection 329
- Chapter 25 Create a Space to Forgive: Letting Go of Blame and Anger Can Move Us from Victim to Survivor 339
- List of Figures 347
- List of Tables 349
- Index 351
Chapters in this book
- Frontmatter I
- Contents V
- Contributors IX
- Acknowledgements XXVII
- Preface XXIX
-
Section 1: Interpersonal Conflict Management
- Chapter 1 Shining a Light on Organizational Conflict 1
- Chapter 2 Emotional Intelligence in Workplace Negotiations 11
- Chapter 3 Psychological Safety: Creating a Healthy Conflict Culture 27
- Chapter 4 Thomas-Kilmann Instrument (TKI) and the Kilmann Organizational Conflict Instrument (KOCI) 39
- Chapter 5 Mindfulness Training in Organizational Settings: An Empirical Look at the Research 57
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Section 2: Organizational Conflict Management
- Chapter 6 Understanding Culture to Resolve Conflict: An Introduction of the ADVANCE Through Conflict™ Model 69
- Chapter 7 Utilization of Frames and Reframing for Organizational Leadership and Conflict Management Effectiveness 103
- Chapter 8 10 Separations in Conflict Resolution 113
- Chapter 9 Collaborative Practices in Organizations: Managing Conflict and Leading Constructive Change 123
- Chapter 10 Shifting the Focus from Stand-Alone Dispute Systems Design Elements to Creating Self-Correcting and Fluid Organizations 133
- Chapter 11 Stereotypes, Bias and Microaggressions in Organizational Conflict Management (OCM) 149
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Section 3: Intercultural, International, and Ethic Conflict Management
- Chapter 12 Managing Workplace Conflicts: Considerations of Ethnicity and Religion 161
- Chapter 13 Hindu Philosophy and the Resolution of the Roots of Conflict: Adi Shankaracharya’s ‘Nirvana Shatakam’ 173
- Chapter 14 Political Conflicts in the Workplace: What are Their Effects, and Can They be Avoided? 185
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Section 4: Methods for Managing Organizational Conflicts
- Chapter 15 Detecting Deception in Negotiation: From Natural Observation to Strategic Provocation 199
- Chapter 16 The HearT of Mediation 217
- Chapter 17 Managing Organizational Conflicts Through Innovation, Creativity, and Inclusion: Implementing a Conflict System of Shared Leadership 233
- Chapter 18 Coaching and Organisational Development: Lessons and Themes from 360 Degree Feedback 249
- Chapter 19 Functions and Benefits of an Organizational Ombuds 269
- Chapter 20 Managing Workplace Conflict: The Role of Human Resources as “Organizational Toxin Handlers” 281
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Section 5: Special Topics in Organizational Conflict Management
- Chapter 21 Workplace Bullying: Not Just Another Conflict 289
- Chapter 22 Women and Organizational Conflict Management: Promoting Human Rights and Challenging Gender Bias 309
- Chapter 23 Making the Invisible Visible: Uncovering the Mystery of Personality Conflicts at Work 317
- Chapter 24 Organizational Conflict Management: Driving Innovation and Organizational Success Through Leadership Management and Human Connection 329
- Chapter 25 Create a Space to Forgive: Letting Go of Blame and Anger Can Move Us from Victim to Survivor 339
- List of Figures 347
- List of Tables 349
- Index 351