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17. Being the Victim
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Chapters in this book
- Frontmatter i
- Contents vii
- Foreword ix
- Preface xi
- Acknowledgments xvii
- Introduction: A New Model of Dignity 1
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Part One: The Ten Essential Elements of Dignity
- 1. Acceptance of Identity 33
- 2. Inclusion 44
- 3. Safety 49
- 4. Acknowledgment 59
- 5. Recognition 63
- 6. Fairness 71
- 7. Benefit of the Doubt 75
- 8. Understanding 81
- 9. Independence 86
- 10. Accountability 89
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Part Two: The Ten Temptations to Violate Dignity
- 11. Taking the Bait 98
- 12. Saving Face 103
- 13. Shirking Responsibility 107
- 14. Seeking False Dignity 114
- 15. Seeking False Security 122
- 16. Avoiding Conflict 126
- 17. Being the Victim 143
- 18. Resisting Feedback 149
- 19. Blaming and Shaming Others to Deflect Your Own Guilt 164
- 20. Engaging in False Intimacy and Demeaning Gossip 170
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Part Three: How to Heal Relationships With Dignity
- 21. Reconciling With Dignity 177
- 22. Dignity’s Promise 197
- Notes 201
- Selected Bibliography 211
- Index 217
Chapters in this book
- Frontmatter i
- Contents vii
- Foreword ix
- Preface xi
- Acknowledgments xvii
- Introduction: A New Model of Dignity 1
-
Part One: The Ten Essential Elements of Dignity
- 1. Acceptance of Identity 33
- 2. Inclusion 44
- 3. Safety 49
- 4. Acknowledgment 59
- 5. Recognition 63
- 6. Fairness 71
- 7. Benefit of the Doubt 75
- 8. Understanding 81
- 9. Independence 86
- 10. Accountability 89
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Part Two: The Ten Temptations to Violate Dignity
- 11. Taking the Bait 98
- 12. Saving Face 103
- 13. Shirking Responsibility 107
- 14. Seeking False Dignity 114
- 15. Seeking False Security 122
- 16. Avoiding Conflict 126
- 17. Being the Victim 143
- 18. Resisting Feedback 149
- 19. Blaming and Shaming Others to Deflect Your Own Guilt 164
- 20. Engaging in False Intimacy and Demeaning Gossip 170
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Part Three: How to Heal Relationships With Dignity
- 21. Reconciling With Dignity 177
- 22. Dignity’s Promise 197
- Notes 201
- Selected Bibliography 211
- Index 217