CONTENTS

Chapters in this book

1. Frontmatter i
2. CONTENTS ix
3. A Note on Language: Coming to Terms xi
4. Introduction 1
5. 1. The “Addict” 34
6. 2. Employee Assistance Program 42
7. 3. Trans-itioning, Again 52
8. 4. Trying to Conceive 64
9. 5. The Colleague 81
10. 6. Down but Not Out 89
11. 7. Fostering, Forcing Choice 102
12. 8. Love and Loss(es) 113
13. 9. Family Dinners 128
14. 10. Never Good Enough 140
15. 11. A Good Christian Man 148
16. 12. Aging Out 157
17. 13. Suddenly Stigmatized 170
18. 14. Saying Goodbye: Re- membering Conversations 187
19. Acknowledgments 199
20. Contributors 201
21. Index 207