Looking at Sixty

Chapters in this book

1. Frontmatter i
2. Contents v
3. Advance praise for Gray Love xi
4. Introduction 1
5. Prelude
6. Looking at Sixty 21
7. PART I To Be or Not To Be in a Relationship: Tales of Humor, Disappointment, Rewards, and Personal Insight
8. Not Jane Eyre’s Story 33
9. Discovery through Online Dating Sites: A Woman’s Perspective 41
10. Close Encounters of the Fifth Kind 47
11. Confessions of an Online Dater 53
12. Advertisement for Myself 59
13. What Would I Wear? 61
14. Something from Everyone 67
15. A (Mostly) Amusing Exercise in Futility 73
16. Rick Redux 83
17. You Say Potato 87
18. Three Dates 93
19. Dreams and Matches in an Unsure Virtual World 103
20. In Transition, Not Seeking for Now 111
21. “Do You Get It Yet?” 117
22. On the Road 121
23. Dark Clouds and Silver Linings 129
24. An Octogenarian’s Adventures in Online Dating 135
25. Coping with COVID-19 139
26. It’s Valentine’s Day. So What! 141
27. What’s Sex Got to Do with It? 145
28. Gray Love en Noir: African American Women Flying Solo by Choice and by Chance 151
29. Passion and Prejudice 161
30. PART II The Complications and Pleasures of Elder Relationships
31. Checking a Different Box 167
32. Weume 173
33. Begin Again? 185
34. The Wizard of Algo 193
35. Date, Marry, Repeat 199
36. Late in the Dating Game: Walked, Homered, Fouled Out 207
37. Matchmaker, Matchmaker! 215
38. A Cozy, Crowded Bed 223
39. Our Bench and Other Late-Life Wonders 225
40. Love after Seventy and Eighty 235
41. Where Is This Going? 241
42. Pleasures and Complications: Living Apart Together 247
43. Parallel Matches 255
44. Reflections on “Old Love” 257
45. A Vine of Roses 265
46. From Texas to Ohio 269
47. Till Illness Do Us Part? 273
48. What Remains Has Just Begun 279
49. At Once 287
50. Acknowledgments 295
51. Notes on Contributors 297