3. Missing Myself

Chapters in this book

1. Frontmatter i
2. Contents vii
3. Acknowledgments ix
4. List of Contributors xi
5. “Another Kind of Sorrow,” xv
6. Preface xvii
7. Introduction 1
8. Part I. The Therapist’S Experience of Loss
9. 1. From the Faraway Nearby: Perspectives on the Integration of Loss 15
10. 2. Experiences of Loss at the End of Analysis: The Analyst’s Response to Termination 32
11. 3. Missing Myself 49
12. Part II. When a Patient Dies
13. introduction 69
14. 4. The Hand of Fate: On Mourning the Death of a Patient 73
15. 5. Little Boy Lost 93
16. 6. When a Patient Dies: Reflections on the Death of Three Patients 107
17. 7. When What We Have to Offer Isn’t Enough: Suicide in Clinical Practice 118
18. Part III. At the Crossroads of the Therapist’S Personal and Professional Worlds
19. Introduction 133
20. 8. When the Frame Shifts: A Multilayered Perspective on Illness in the Therapist 137
21. 9. The Loss of an Institution: Mourning Chestnut Lodge 158
22. 10. The Death of the Analyst, the Death of the Analytic Community, and Bad Conduct 178
23. 11. The Analyst’s Death—Apprehension yet not Comprehension 198
24. Part IV. When Disaster St Rikes a Comm Unity
25. Introduction 215
26. 12. Broken Promises, Shattered Dreams, Wordless Endings 219
27. 13. What the Living Did: September 11 and Its Aftermath 237
28. 14. The Loss of Normal: Ten Years as a U.S. Navy Physician Since 9/11 255
29. 15. Time 277
30. Conclusion 287
31. “The Five Stages of Grief,” a poem by Linda Pastan 291
32. Index 293