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“You’re such an idiot, but I’m only joking”: The perception of mock impoliteness by British and Italian men and women

  • Vittorio Napoli

    Vittorio Napoli has a PhD in Linguistics from the University of Pavia and Bergamo. He has taught English-Italian translation, English culture, English language and English pragmatics at the universities of Insubria, Eastern Piedmont, Pavia and Bologna. His main research interests lie in translation studies, pragmatics and (im)politeness. He has contributed to a number of conferences in the areas of translation and pragmatics and published in the same fields, including the monograph “Requests in Film Dialogue and Dubbing Translation” (2021).

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Abstract

Mock impoliteness is a social practice typifying the interaction of close friends consisting in the use of rude jokes or utterances that signify the speaker’s intent to show solidarity and intimacy with the interlocutor. Nonetheless, as an impolite load is still carried by such utterances, how targets of mock impoliteness will react to them, namely whether they will find them amusing or outright offensive, may depend on a series of factors. The present research focuses on how Spencer-Oatey’s (2000) face and sociality rights categories, together with gender (male/female) and lingua-culture (British English and Italian) interact to determine the acceptability degree of mock impolite jokes. This cross-cultural and cross-gender perception study, which placed its focus on the hearer’s evaluations, consisted in a rating task administered through an online questionnaire, and revealed that the interaction of the three factors determine the offensiveness versus acceptability of the jokes.


Corresponding author: Vittorio Napoli, University of Pavia and Bergamo, Pavia, Lombardi, Italy, E-mail:

About the author

Vittorio Napoli

Vittorio Napoli has a PhD in Linguistics from the University of Pavia and Bergamo. He has taught English-Italian translation, English culture, English language and English pragmatics at the universities of Insubria, Eastern Piedmont, Pavia and Bologna. His main research interests lie in translation studies, pragmatics and (im)politeness. He has contributed to a number of conferences in the areas of translation and pragmatics and published in the same fields, including the monograph “Requests in Film Dialogue and Dubbing Translation” (2021).

Appendix: (For reasons of space, the British male questionnaire is only provided here as an example: The British female questionnaire and the two Italian questionnaires are identical in content, only the names of the participants involved in the conversations being different)

In this form, you will be asked to imagine yourself in nine social scenarios. These scenarios concern interactions between you and some friends you know well, so in situations when one often makes jokes that are, or at least appear to be, offensive but are actually told in a jocular tone. All of these interactions take place in the presence of other friends with whom you also have a close relationship. For each scenario, please read the description and imagine yourself in the situation. At the end of each description, someone (a friend with whom you have an intimate relationship), makes the joke in bold, whose degree of acceptability you will rate. The form is anonymous, so please judge the jokes honestly, based on the subjective impression that you would have if you were in that situation. All seemingly offensive jokes presented are told in a joking tone, so your friend’s intention is never to offend. Nevertheless, you may still think that not all of the jokes are equally appropriate. At the end of each scenario, you will have to evaluate the degree of offensiveness/acceptability of the joke, choosing a rating ranging from 1 to 6, where 1 = not offensive at all, and 6 = extremely offensive. The numbers 1, 2 and 3 indicate a propensity to accept the joke (where 1 is the positive extreme), while 4, 5 and 6 indicate a propensity to take offense (where 6 is the negative extreme). One of the items (“Which joke(s) did you find more offensive? Why?”) is optional and allows you to state why you rated one or more joke(s) as more offensive, compared to others. This one should be filled after the other 9 items have been rated. While you are taking the survey, please make sure you are not skipping any item.

PLEASE NOTE: when expressing your judgment, do not consider how funny or not you find the joke (whether or not you would laugh) but how acceptable or offensive you would find it, even if told in a jocular tone.

You and your friends are outside taking a walk when you start talking about a mutual friend not present. You take out your phone to call him, to say hi all together, but he doesn’t answer. After hanging up, you say he probably didn’t see your call. At that point John, one of your friends, tells you in a joking tone: “I’d have ignored you as well ”.

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  2. You and your friend Samuel are at a mutual friend’s (James) house for a visit and all three of you are chatting in the kitchen. You offer to wash your and James’ cup, since they have been left in the sink from breakfast. Just before you finish washing, James says to you, in a joking tone: “Oh thank you, you can also mop up the floor while you’re there ”.

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  3. You and your friends are at a bar, discussing your personal preferences on different topics: food, music, politics, etc. With Drew, one of your friends, you find out you barely agree on anything. At some point, the topic of the best travel destinations is raised and you are about to chime in, after the others had their say. Right then, Drew interrupts you and says to you, in a joking tone: “You don’t have the right to talk tonight ”.

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  4. You and your friend Kevin have been hosted by William, a mutual friend. During your stay, you accidentally made a mess in William’s house, such as having spilled some oil on the wall. At the end of your stay, William says goodbye to you and Kevin, then turns to you and says, in a joking tone: “See you again, even if you are the worst guest ever ”.

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  5. You are toasting your birthday with a group of friends. After you have filled everyone’s glass with sparkling wine and completed the first round, Michael, one of your friends, notices that you have barely poured any wine into his glass. He shows it to you and says, in a joking tone: “Selfish as usual, huh?

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  6. You are abroad for a trip to visit a non-British friend. One evening, this friend takes you out for a drink with his friends, all non-British. At some point, the conversation shifts to the Brits’ alleged poor humour. One of your friend’s foreign friends says in a joking tone, while referring to British people in general: “Well, if I found one person who appreciated British humour abroad, I’d hold on to them ”.

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  7. You and a group of friends are waiting for the bus in a tourist location to go and visit the next destination. You have just bought the tickets at the ticket office but you are wondering how long they are valid for. You then offer to go back to the ticket office and ask the clerks. At that point David, a member of the group replies, in a joking tone, commenting on your face that looks very tired: “No, I’ll go, if they see your face, they’ll get scared ”.

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  8. After an abundant meal with friends at the table, and after you have eaten a large amount of food, Luke, one of your friends, says to you in a joking tone: “You are the greediest person I have ever met ”.

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  9. Which joke(s) did you find more offensive? Why?

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